Father Figure, Jordan Shapiro
Father Figure, Jordan Shapiro
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Father Figure
How to Be a Feminist Dad

Author: Jordan Shapiro

Narrator: Jordan Shapiro

Unabridged: 5 hr 20 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 05/11/2021


Synopsis

From digital-age parenting expert Jordan Shapiro, a thoughtful and long-overdue exploration of fatherhood and masculinity in the 21st century.

There are hundreds of books on parenting, and with good reason—becoming a parent is scary, difficult, and life-changing. But when it comes to books about parenting identity, rather than the nuts and bolts of raising children, nearly all are about what it's like to be a mother.

Drawing on research in sociology, economics, philosophy, gender studies, and the author's own experiences, Father Figure sets out to fill that gap. It's an exploration of the psychology of fatherhood from an archetypal perspective as well as a cultural history that challenges familiar assumptions about the origins of so-called traditional parenting roles. What paradoxes and contradictions  are inherent in our common understanding of dads? Might it be time to rethink some aspects of fatherhood?

Gender norms are changing, and old economic models are facing disruption. As a result, parenthood and family life are undergoing an existential transformation. And yet, the narratives and images of dads available to us are wholly inadequate for this transition. Victorian and Industrial Age tropes about fathers not only dominate the media, but also contour most people's lived experience. Father Figure offers a badly needed update to our collective understanding of fatherhood—and masculinity in general. It teaches dads how to embrace the joys of fathering while guiding them toward an image of manliness for the modern world.

Reviews

Goodreads review by Mike on June 26, 2021

A lot of great ideas in here and the book really excels when Dr. Shapiro brings up specific examples from his parenting experiences. And his writing can be very penetrating, highlighting typical oversights and assumptions that many men have that cause them to be less effective or compassionate fathe......more

Goodreads review by Ron on May 21, 2023

Challenging and timely. Packed with better ways to view the world from a feminist perspective and how to approach fatherhood without all the sexist and misogynistic traps and tropes of the patriarchy that have been handed down for generations. A call to break the cycle and create a new world for our......more

Goodreads review by Sarah on July 10, 2024

Read for work, as I’m neither a parent nor a man, so take from this what you will. Based in intersectional feminism, from a humanist viewpoint. By a divorced dad, so a fairly unique perspective for a book on fatherhood. The author is brutally honest about his own failings as a father – whether or not......more

Goodreads review by Amanda on June 16, 2021

The concepts in the book are great and much needed for being a feminist dad. The writing of the book however wasn’t very engaging in my opinion with a lot of talk about Greek gods, etc.......more

Goodreads review by Katherine on September 03, 2021

Even in today’s seemingly modern, more inclusive society, a majority of parenting books are written about motherhood, and fathers are often assumed to have their role pre-defined and easy to follow. Father Figure sets out to turn that idea on end, and takes a stab at exploring the psychology of fath......more


Quotes

“This pandemic has revealed a crisis in American caregiving. I hope Shapiro's fearless book kickstarts a woke dad revolution, because Goddess knows we need one.”—Anya Kamenetz, NPR correspondent and author of The Art of Screen Time

"Father Figure is exactly the book that our family needed, and we imagine yours does too. Shapiro questions what the traditional ‘dad’ offers a modern household. He reminds us that feminism liberates everyone, not just women. And he offers supportive and profound suggestions for fathers. You can be a vital member of your family’s journey without being a patriarchal tyrant."—Ben Lee and Ione Skye, musician, actress, partners, parents

“Holy smokes! This book is a revelation and a revolution. This is required reading for every person who is or will be a caregiver in their lifetime -- which is all of us. Father Figure is a brilliant mix of memoir, manifesto, and action. Shapiro offers us hope for a future where fatherhood is radically reimagined, and this is the road map to get us there.”—Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play

“It’s about time someone addressed the role fathers play in raising feminist children, and Shapiro has nailed it. I am happy to add Father Figure to my bookshelf of essential parenting reads.”—Jessica Lahey, author of The Gift of Failure and The Addiction Inoculation

“This book redefines what it means to be a good father. It’s for anyone who dreams of a world where dads are both strong and kind—a world where children of any gender can look up to the men in their lives.”—Adam Grant, author of Think Again